This little thing called “life”

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This little thing we call life is taxing. You can live with the feeling that you should be better, you should be more successful, you should be a better person. Stop that shit! I wish I could be a better husband, make more money, make more time, be more in touch with friends, yadda yadda the list goes on. You can dream of being better or plan on it, but something always gets in the way. Unless you focus on yourself (while being a better person) nothing will ever change. Those “what-ifs” are always “why-nots”.  You can’t make it happen unless you prioritize you. That doesn’t mean you drop family or friends by the waist-side, but you have to be happy to share happy. Sharing happiness is what makes us, as humans, be compassionate, respected, loved, cared for, cry when there are terrible things thousands of miles away, it’s the human “element”.  Compassion is what binds us together close or far, big or small. It’s your human element.

Being the mortar that holds things together  

You don’t have to be the “tough man”, you don’t have to be the “strongest person in the house”, you don’t have to be the “non-emotional stronghold that keeps the family together”. Just be you. You have to take experiences and learn from them. You are you, you will always be you. Things never work out perfect, they never play out the way we want them to. That’s the funny thing about life. It’s unpredictable.

So, go and hate yourself, it won’t change life’s plan. You can also love yourself

You can hate yourself. You can hate things you have done for a long time. You can also love yourself and share that with everyone around you. Do you love the smallest thing in your life? Maybe its driving to work alone and listening to music. Maybe it’s that moment of clarity when you see the sunset on the horizon? Maybe it’s the time you take a breath and are happy to be alive. Maybe it’s the smile on your favorite person’s face? Trust me, there’s plenty of people around me that have had more impact than I ever will. They showed love in times when it went against their beliefs. There are people that I watched pass away that had so much more to give. They made choices, even outside of their control, to bring happiness to others. They did it by being selfless, by enjoying the “moment” no matter the situation. They remembered and focused on what made others happy. It’s the human element to feel “compassion” for owned outcomes and those you cannot control, but know makes others happy. That’s the joy of life.

So why should you hate yourself? You shouldn’t. You can, but that leads to a dead end. It’s a path that you can work upon. It’s a path that can drive you to being satisfied (at the basic sense) to making you not hating you. You should enjoy the fact that you have hinderances and self-doubts, but have the capability to make a difference in your life and those around you. With every disappointment is a chance to make it better. With every failed opportunity one positive will come about…..as long as you believe it can happen. So stop hating yourself, start loving the life you have. People have it much worse than you. You have opportunity. You can always make it better. You have the choice

Joy and Life’s Celebrations

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You need to celebrate your life. Whether you’re sick or healthy you have a chance to breathe, to live, to see the next day. That gives us purpose. That gives us feeling that we have something to do or provide to someone else. There are a ton of things that can limit your joy. It’s the pain, it’s the cancer, it’s the hurt you feel from jeopardizing your ongoing spirit. Your spirit reflects on everyone around you. You have a bad and good. You need to satisfy each to make a difference internally and externally. Both play hand in hand. So celebrate life. Celebrate that you are on this earth and living whether it be good or bad.

A Deep dive in the Water

Think of this: When you dive into the pool or the ocean you become subjected to the surroundings. You have less control. You have the ability to listen. To hear the millions of things that surround you. It can be the sound of the waves, the breathes that keep you alive in that moment, the splashes of happiness of those around you. You have time to reflect. You have dived in to the water that provides clarity. Think of water like life. It’s an ecosystem of living things. You need to take a break and listen to the millions or exponential things around you. We are a small speck on a planet that spans thousands of years, BUT you can take the time to make something special. There’s a reason why a fraction of people have created opportunities that make your life better. Electricity, airplanes, cars, running water, air quality, technology. Those things were brought by a being’s choice to make a difference and make life easier for others. Life isn’t supposed to be easy by the way. These are bonuses. These are things that someone chose to do to lead to a better life success.

Life through the water 

I’ve talked about this before, but I see the opportunity and clarity that came through death. Water, as said before creates clarity. It removes the outside “noise” and creates a moment to think of what you are at that specific time. It’s your time. It’s also a time that can make you think. You have to think, listen. Cold, warm, fun, whatever it’s a time for things to happen. It’s also something that cannot be controlled. It’s a life-less experience. I think back on being part of the experience when one of my heroes lost his life in this “experience”.  He didn’t choose that place. He didn’t expect nor want to go to the next level in that place. BUT I feel that was a sign of clarity. It was a place that the world didn’t create noise and he was peaceful. Through struggle and pain, I feel that there was clarity and calm that made the journey to next life “peaceful”. It’s a feel of “floating away”. Sadly, he floated away beyond our reach. He took a moment unexpectedly to drift across the vast ocean that surrounds all of us. He made peace with the world around him. That’s a sad but magical thing. Water surrounds all of us and brings us life. It was in those last moments that his spirit chose to part ways with the physical world and become part of something more. He was fluid with his thoughts. He was ever changing much like the waves of the ocean. He was at peace with the sand, the water, and the wind that makes our planet live and breathe. His spirit made a choice. You have that choice too either in spirit or physical.